Tuesday, September 4, 2012

What exactly is a "babymoon"?

Wikipedia Definition of "babymoon":        

"1. The original meaning is a period of time that parents spend bonding with a recently-born baby.  

2. More recently the term has come to be used to describe a vacation taken by a couple that is expecting a baby in order to allow the couple to enjoy a final trip together before the many sleepless nights that usually accompany a newborn baby. 

3. Babymoon can also be used for a trip taken by a couple even before they get pregnant. As long as the trip is intended to be a final romantic fling before venturing   into parenthood, the term babymoon applies."

So which one is my definition?  To narrow it down for you, I am not prenant, nor do I have a cuddly, tiny little child that requires my love and attention 24/7.  And referring to the title of my blog explains that my babymoon is not on purpose and longer than necessary, so I am most likely not on a "final romantic fling."  I suppose I need to write my own.  Here goes:

My Babymoon Definition:
An incredible journey that began in hopes (also fears) of becoming a mommy to a beautiful baby of my own and creating a family of at least five (with my husband and our two super needy dogs).  This babymoon began innocently enough a year and a half ago, only researching the little information needed to pro-create.  Slowly month after month with no sign of any success, my plates of worry began to stack one on top of the other until it was too high to reach.  I have been hanging out in that place for 16 months now (which I realize many people struggle with this for years and my heart aches for them).  The idea to call my journey a babymoon came about recently, because I needed a positive term to describe something I have been dealing with for awhile now and is also ambiguous enough to imply that I won't be giving up anytime soon (even though I say I'm going to every month).  I have no idea when this babymoon will end, or if it will, and I do not know what the outcome will be, which is the hardest part. 

I do hope the end of my journey will yield an actual real-life baby :), but until then I am floating around in this mixture of excitement of what is to come one day, worry for what may not be for awhile or may never be, sadness from feeling pressure and guilt and painful interactions with others, yet bloom a newfound hope each month.  So that's my definition.  Confusing, maybe, and a little tough to follow at times, but it's my path and my journey, that I bet many of you are floating around next to me as well.  

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